I very much identify with parents that lose a child of any age, in particular when it is caused by the irresponsible acts of others who are operating automobiles under the influence of alcohol, drugs, cell phones, or other reasons of stupidity .
I feel much of what these parents feel, in a way that no-one who hasn't experienced this unimaginable pain can ever understand. It is indescribable, the deepest darkest, non stop emptiness that lasts inside of us forever.
While this post is about three families, and 3 young innocent children, it is also about YOU. It not only concerns your loved ones, but how, and what we as a society, and yourself believe in trying to stop the killing of innocent victims. These three young people did not have to die.
Today's blog post is not pretty, but it is definitely worth it for everyone who has arrived at this page, to force yourself to read it all. You can try to hide from these issues but they may someday touch the life of someone you know, and are eating away at the fabric of our world as we know it.
In many cases there is in my personal opinion a rightful, indignant, deeply felt blame that many of us place on these deadly situations where Americans are killed by undocumented illegal aliens who are driving intoxicated and/or under the influence of other drugs, as well as on the dysfunctional legal system, all who almost always never reveal a shred of accountability, justice, honest remorse to the victims of these acts of horror.
I recently became aware of the Denice family, where the young life of Matthew Denice has been snuffed out and his loving parents, family, friends, have suddenly, without any warning, lost a beloved child to the heinous acts of someone who was driving drunk, and is also an undocumented illegal alien.
REST IN PEACE MATTHEW DENICE
"Matthew was a wonderful person with his whole life in front of him and in 1 sec, it was taken by a drunk driver, I want people to know what he took, Matthew just graduated from Framingham State University, just started a new job, he leaves behind his loving parents an older brother, many Aunts,Uncles, cousins and many friends, Matt had the most beautiful smile, he loved the Red Sox, snowboarding, skateboarding and working on his car, Matthew we will never forget you , you will always be loved and missed. He was only 23 years old and he did not have to die. He lived life to the fullest and was a role model in the community who aspired to be a local police officer. Please join his family and community in seeking justice for this massive loss". According to the Milford Daily News: "A 23-year-old Milford man was killed Saturday evening after police say an intoxicated driver hit his motorcycle and dragged his body a quarter mile. Matthew J. Denice, of 22 Debbie Lane, was pronounced dead at Milford Regional Medical Center after the crash at 7:50 p.m. Police arrested Nicolas Dutan Guaman, 34, of 10 Cherry St., Apt. 1, Milford, and charged him with vehicular homicide, driving under the influence of liquor, negligence, leaving the scene of an accident involving personal injury and death, possession of an open container in the motor vehicle, failing to stop for police, unlicensed operation of a motor vehicle, failure to yield at a stop sign, wanton or reckless conduct creating risk to a child, and resisting arrest. He is being held at the Milford Police station, said Sgt. John Sanchioni. Immigration and Customs Enforcement "does have an interest in him because of a question of his citizenship," said the sergeant. According to police documents, officers contacted the Ecuadorian Consulate following the crash. Guaman, driving his 2004 black Ford pick-up truck, failed to yield at a stop sign at Congress and Fayette streets, striking Denice on his 2003 Buell motorcycle and dragging his body about a quarter mile, police said. Denice's body was dislodged from under Guaman's truck when he ran off the road at the corner of West Bancroft Street, said Milford Police Sgt. Mike Pighetti. "According to accounts, families grilling outside and sitting on their porches heard the crash and about a half dozen people chased the pick-up truck on foot and banged on the door trying to get the driver to stop," said Milford Police Sgt. Mike Pighetti yesterday. After Guaman ran off the road, he ran away, police said. Police chased him and arrested him. About an hour before the crash, Guaman's family told police Guaman was drunk when he left a party with his 6-year-old son and another man in the truck, said Pighetti. "We had been looking for the truck when the accident occurred," he said. "It was horrible, horrible," said Pighetti. "This whole thing was horrible and unnecessary."The crash remains under investigation by state, regional and local police". ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
I have spoken many times before about the death of my son Steven Nathaniel Wolkoff
The sub human animal who started the deadly chain of events died immediately, while my son suffered fighting for his life for well over an hour, lying on a hot, asphalt highway in the middle the the Pacific Coast U.S. Highway 1 in California. There were numerous additional major factors that also involved negligent First Responders, Government Entities, and others that ultimately killed Steven.
In Memoriam:
STEVEN NATHANIEL WOLKOFF
September 23,1977 – June 21, 2008
"Tragedy knows no bounds. On Saturday, June 21st, our dear friend and colleague Steve Wolkoff was killed in a five-car collision on Highway 1. A drunk driver, under the influence of drugs, ended Steve’s young life and there are no words to describe how devastated we all are.
Our deepest sympathies, thoughts and prayers are with the Wolkoff family. FreeWheel prides itself on hiring the very best and brightest and Steve was no exception.
As one of our colleagues said, “we wish him God’s peace.”
FreeWheel | 2008.06.28
WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU STEVEN
FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS. WE LOVE YOU.
YOUR FAMILY."
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Then there is the horrible tragedy of 4 year old American Juan Mendoza who was killed in San Francisco, California while crossing the street, holding the hand of his father, with the light green in his direction, when a woman driver, an American, busy texting on a cell cell phone, failed to stop at the red light in front of her, because her eyes were focused instead on the phone, and killed the beloved son of another family. She crushed this child, his mother saw it happen from her home and came running to her sons side, but there was nothing she could do to save her son.
I have had the unique pleasure of personally meeting Juan's mother several times and we have spoken, shared our broken hearts, the never ending pain, and loss of our sons. She is a hard working, wonderfully kind, loving human being, who it is an honor for me to know. The words, feelings below are directly taken from their memorial page.
He left behind a father, mommy pregnant with Diego and sister Yissel.
He just had a lot dreams- a dreamer, perfect and loving son, my little spider man, he want to be police man, funny, smart, sad memories left behind, you was kill on the street for a woman who say was an ACCIDENT, she was driving and looking on her cellphone, you was waiting for you green light while she was enjoying her time on her cellphone, she cross the red light and the rest I can barely believe it, my loved son I miss you, I need you, PLEASE IF YOU DRIVE, DON'T USE YOUR CELLPHONE, don't destroye more families, don't KILL MORE CHILDS.
En loving memory of my partner, mi friend, mi big love......................
..........................my son ANGELITO.
I love you some much, and I miss you my love, rest on peace."
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Three of the deaths above involved 2 ton plus automobiles driven by morons. Two of the deaths involved cars that were operated by undocumented illegal aliens who had no legal rights to be in the United States, let alone driving an automobile.
Three of the deaths above involved 2 ton plus automobiles driven by morons. Two of the deaths involved cars that were operated by undocumented illegal aliens who had no legal rights to be in the United States, let alone driving an automobile.
These are daily occurrence's. Current Statistics show that at least 16,000 people are killed each year by drunk drivers (DWI) and/or Drivers Under the Influence of other drugs (DUI).
The above incredible statistics translates into one person being killed every 30 minutes and 1 person every 2 minutes is seriously injured in an alcohol or other drug related automobile crash.
These are mind boggling facts, human lives destroyed. It happens 24 hours, every day, 365 days a year in the United States and in many other "civilized" countries around the world.
I refuse to call these accidents, they are collisions, deliberate acts of murder that kill innocent people because not only do the perpetrators not give a shit about taking another life, but the public in general pays little attention, beyond their limited, short, infantile attention span.
Some deaths caused in auto collisions involving undocumented illegal aliens have become high profile media stories that adds to the already fiery debate about the overall undocumented immigrant issue.
On one side there are those who say that there's terrible crimes committed by all sorts of groups in our society and wonderful acts performed by the same groups.
On the other side, are those who say undocumented aliens are here illegally, do not respect our laws by their mere presence, and then many commit acts of violence by killing Americans.
There was a time before Steven was killed that I felt empathy for many of these illegal immigrants, who I saw as trying to make a life for themselves, their families.
Some of that has changed within me since Steven's death. Steven was killed by those who saw themselves above the laws and chose to not follow the motor vehicle laws that the rest of us must abide by, with no drivers licenses, no driver training, no driving test for them to bother with.They seem to do what they want, when they wish, and make up their own rules, with a complete disregard for their actions and the often fatal consequences caused by them.
I do not believe that the mother or family of the animal that killed Steven has ever considered or felt any sympathy, compassion, responsibility to what their son did to Steven and our family. I don't believe his mother ever even shed a tiny tear about Steven's death. The act by herself as an illegal undocumented alien, knowingly giving him the keys to her car when she was aware that he was high on drugs, did not possess a drivers license (neither did she), speaks for itself.
At the same time, our children are left dead, suffering painfully, horrific deaths, rotting away in their graves. Dead is forever, and as parents we become the living dead as well. Our dead children have had their lives literally stolen from them and they will have no more chance to breathe, laugh, hug, kiss, be held by us, touched, grow old with their families, and will be forgotten eventually by everyone except us, we will miss them forever.
The purpose of today's post is very complex, as it should be, Clearly, undocumented illegal aliens are an issue that has not been addressed and is festering like a malignant infection, day by day, until it explodes into the hatred of ALL immigrants, including those who are good, decent people, and are innocent of any wrong doing.
We are a nation with a long history of immigrants being part of our foundation, and the vast majority are hard working, decent people. If they have entered the U.S. illegally, should they all be deported?
While I seek justice for Steven, I also have witnessed for over 3 years the corruption, circus, and dysfunction of our legal system, where victims are preyed upon by the vultures who have turned our laws into being about their making money, manipulating of legal words, and hiding behind the broken overall legal system.
I no longer expect any justice for Steven, but I am continuing to fight on as I must do the very best that I can to obtain this justice for my son, regardless of the outcome.
While I seek justice for Steven, I also have witnessed for over 3 years the corruption, circus, and dysfunction of our legal system, where victims are preyed upon by the vultures who have turned our laws into being about their making money, manipulating of legal words, and hiding behind the broken overall legal system.
I no longer expect any justice for Steven, but I am continuing to fight on as I must do the very best that I can to obtain this justice for my son, regardless of the outcome.
Where does this now leave the victims, our Country? Many slime balls have tried to use and have been successful in using the loss of our children's lives as a means to further their own political beliefs.
It has sometimes become a way to provoke extreme hatred, violence, and political agendas by those with no real concern or caring for what happened to our children and us. They are using our grief in a callous, disgusting way to further their own goals of hate.
Others, honestly demand legitimate, long overdue reforms in the enforcement of our immigration laws, instead of ignoring them, as if they don't exist.
Without reducing the importance of immigration issues in all of this, to me it is only one part of an even bigger cancer. It is about modern society as a whole, that begins with the way our society encourages through commercials, culture, and twisted values, the permission that it is OK to drink, do drugs, drive very fast, rush to do everything, the "it's all about the self centered , selfish, "me" mindset, which permeates every part of the "average" American in devaluing a human life.
In particular, the notion that it is "cool" to do all this while driving a car. Sure we have all those ads warning us to drink, drug, cell phone, responsibly, but most of these are simultaneously hawking their products as a way to be cool, a "real"man, a "with it" woman, sexy, make more friends, have a better social life, all of these are the not so subtle messages that these endless commercials speak about.
Then there are the parents of our "club" that no-one would ever want to belong to. You can't join, it just takes whoever it chooses, at its pleasure, as its members, whenever, wherever, and however it wishes.
I cannot speak for other parents, families, or even my own family. I can only speak for myself. Do:I have the right to hate illegal immigrants, in particular Mexicans, does the Denice family have the same right if they feel it, in particular about people from Ecuador? What about Juan's Family, the tiny 4 year old killed by an American? Do they have the right, if they feel it, to hate Americans?
I am sharing my feelings in an honest way as only a parent can in my situation, who has lost a precious child to the reality of what happens when a system of Government and Laws stops functioning, to be replaced by the laws of the jungle. When our corrupt Governments, politicians, on Federal, State, local levels for decades has served itself and done everything possible to not be responsible for we the people who they supposedly are representing, I can at least speak the truth.
This is a parents worst nightmare, for us it is horrifically real, not an intellectual artificial debate of unfeeling ideas, not a bad dream, our beloved children are actually buried six feet under, in cold dark, graves, forever. They are not in heaven, not with Angels, they are dead, gone for all time, never to be with us for even a second of time.
Most of you will see your children, your loved ones again, we won't, we never even knew that it was the last time we would see them, so please don't rationalize this into textbook philosophical thoughts.
The answers? I have none, it's like it says in the song Blowing In The Wind, "Yes, how many deaths will it take till he knows that too many people have died ?The answer my friend is blowing in the wind.The answer is blowing in the wind".
What would you feel, if your child or loved one is next on the random list of daily victims? Scary thought to even consider! It's a frightening thing to think about and sure it "always happens to someone else's family, not yours". Believe that if it makes you feel safer.
In the real world, there is no more self responsibility, accountability, conscience, compassion that exist in the rules. Life is cheap to many, yours is of no value to "them". There is no way escaping that these are the new laws of the jungle we inhabit.
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